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08-03-2005, 07:05 PM
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I was 18 he was 20 it was the most amazing thing we were both in love, or so I thought.... All the while he was thinking about leaving me. We accidentally got pregnant - I was so happy!! I was having a baby with the love of my life!!! Everything went well for the next 9 months; he was always with me ensuring that I was well taken care of, that I was comfortable ect. I had our baby, our little girl and he later proposed to me. I couldn’t have been happier. With tears in my eyes I gladly accepted. My mum warned me that he didn’t really want to be with me, that he didn’t love me. But how could I believe her? She was just jealous that I was so happy; he said he loved me, why would he lie? We had a wonderful beach front wedding I knew I would always look back with fond memories everything about it was perfect. My now husband and my daughter took off for a long much needed vacation. Everything was going great for the next year, we bought a house together, and we got a dog and a cat, bought a car.
He went out one evening and didn’t return I was awoken later that night by the police saying that my husband was in jail for forcing himself on a 16 year old girl. Well what I later found out was that 16 year old girl happened to be my little sister and he hadn’t forced himself on her, someone saw them and thought it was forced by they had been dating for the last year. My little sister, who I just had Christmas with and told her how happy I was, she knew…. This was not the only thing I didn’t know, he had been sleeping with other people when he and I were married he now had 3 different children, with 3 different women. My world was shattered, how was I supposed to cope? How was I supposed to go on, without him? I felt like my life was over but I had to go on, I had to do it for my daughter. Now 20 years later I still feel the hurt and betrayal that both my family and my ex husband have put on me (since then my little sister and ex husband have married) I guess you can say my regret is doing things to young, jumping into it, and last but not least, not listening to my mum. :( 
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10-15-2005, 06:58 PM
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Thats really sad Tammy. I understand you have gone through alot specially at a young age. I know it must have been very difficult for you. Know things are not easy. But you have to move on. There is no point repenting or feeling sad. Life moves on and sodo you . PLease let bygones ber bygones and then only can you make things workout for you..........
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10-20-2005, 06:03 AM
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I guess you could say i do regret it
well, one thing I could say is that you have certainly gone through the worst phase of your life having all your dreams shattered.
But lets take it this way, its destiny that decides your life and not you. so stop feeling guilty, and try to move on with life. For I am sure, life sure has some good roads ahead in store for you. Last edited by maxx : 11-28-2005 at 06:36 AM.
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01-23-2006, 04:35 PM
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I think your sister shuodl eb ashamed of herself and what comes around goes around...she may get the short end of the stick one day if you know what I mean....DOnt live in your past hun just look to your future there are things we wish we can change in our past too but you learn and become stronger from your past experiences.....one thing i learned during my hard times is tomorrow is another day and cry your sorrows and leave them where you rest....the sun will come out tomorrow........just remember to keep your faith and pray....always God somehow comes through when we greatyl need him....find someone to help you fill your void that will defintely help ease the pay...
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03-03-2006, 10:11 AM
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thank you for all your kind words, the other week it would have been our anniversety. I just dont know how to let go and move on. I havent been in a serious relationship ever since....
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03-03-2006, 03:44 PM
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Tammy,
You have to let the past go, you shouldnt still be remembering when your anniversiery is ect, leave it where it belongs in your past! Your baby girl is all grown up you should start looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, it is not fun to spend it alone. My father spent his whole life alone and was bitter about it until the end. A person needs love, they need affection from thier mates, you need to find someone new to love again and to let go of your past. I would reccomend coucnelling to fully mourn over your ex husband and your sister, then move on, good luck!
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03-04-2006, 08:24 AM
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oh tammy, i do hope things get better for you, look on the bright side at least you found out sooner rather then later. You have so much life to live, i hope you do start doing things you enjoy and start having fun with your life, good luck
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03-09-2006, 12:57 PM
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what happened wasn't your fault and i don't think age has to do with it...no matter how cautious we are, i think what happened could still have occured...it's sad that this has to happen to you...at least, you learned about the situation sooner...please move on with your life...maybe god has better plans for you...you may not understand it now but some day you might just will...while it is good to be cautious about getting into another realtionship, please let love in when it comes...and yeah, dilbug is right...try doing things you enjoy...this will help you have a more positive outlook in life...life is too short for us to be held back by our past...
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